We all know how beautiful and talented bloggers are. How amazing and creative they have to be, in order to write a bombastic blog that everyone’s going to read.
We also know that bloggers are nice, supportive and kind and of course, they are always there to help.
Blogging communities are the best and there is never anything that could destroy the peace and harmony among those people.
They are like the mystical unicorns of perfection.
And we shall cut the crap right here. Of course, some bloggers are like how I described them above. But that’s by far not the big picture here. Blogging communities, just like any other community have a huge amount of errors and today I’ll spill the beans on those that I noticed.
1) Constructive criticism
There is a huge lack of constructive criticism! Actually, there is no criticism at all. Everyone’s like “Oh you’re so perfect/beautiful/smart.” Etc. Like… I didn’t ask for that… Tell me what you actually think, bloody hell… I don’t need a pat on the back it won’t get me anywhere it won’t make me any better than I am now… All the nice talk makes everyone sound so insincere, because NO you can NOT think that everyone’s good at everything and NO, not everything that a blogger writes is agreeable. So please tell what you think already!
There’s also the thing with reviews. Cause, most of them suck. If you don’t like something just says so, dude… I know that you’re paid to review, in most cases. But do you really think that companies want only the “omg I loved this” kind of reviews? You can be honest if the product didn’t work for you, but you also have to make sure you do that professionally because no one likes to be brainlessly bashed.
2) Bullying and harassment
No matter how people think or want the blogging community to be a nice and supportive one, you can’t ignore the fact that we’re all in a competition. For views, readers, subscribers, comments. It’s a life or death situation! (Okay, I’m exaggerating but you get the point.) And wherever there’s competition there will be harassment and bullying (read more about bullying here). So yes bullying is not nice and by far not cool, yet people who are desperate, see it as the only way to get rid of that annoying little b**** who can’t even write a decent blog/take a picture/ or whatever else.
So dear blogging children, because yes, if you bully you’re a little kid to me. If you can’t play nice with others, don’t play with others. Go to your corner and see what happens when you have no support from other people.
Oh dolls, we’re at my biggest pet peeve, but also at my favorite activity. I love to follow drama because it’s so hilarious. But of course, it’s only funny as long as people still talk with a little bit of sense. When sense is out of the window my fun goes with it… I lost you at the pet peeve, right? Well As much as I love drama, I also hate it. For most cases, drama is caused by a butt hurt person who accused another person of something they didn’t really do. But the first person thought they did.
I saw so much drama in my life that could be ended if people would simply LISTEN and not just drag on their own fallen agenda the whole thing became a bit stupid.
4) All for one and one for none…
I HATE that I have to point out this one but here goes nothing… Have you even been in a position in a Facebook group, where you put hours into doing the group threads and follow the rules and commented/stumbled/pinned/tweeted EVERY blog post that was shared, because it’s a nice thing to do, only to come back to nothing? Or maybe ONE person out of 50 that you gave your helping hand returned the favor.
If I know that you didn’t do what was requested and I see you in a group thread again, you can be darn sure that I will not do anything for you.
Also. I absolutely hate it when I get a half-assed comment on my blog post just because you have to write it for the sake of the facebook group. At least TRY to pretend that you read the post and not make it painfully obvious that you didn’t even bother to take 2 min to skim it.
5) Empty promises
This is almost the same thing as the 4th one, but it deserves a special place in he-… I mean this blog. There are people who promise you things, nice things, shiny things, things that are called readers… They post their statuses promising that if you scratch their back they will scratch yours. And they leave you itching after you helped them.
Dear people who do that. If you do it, no one will ever trust you again. And you’ll find yourself without friends and without viewers. No one appreciates being screwed over, so I don’t think you want to deal with angry bloggers…
6) Blogging awards
Let me tell you. It’s EXTREMELY hard to make a completely fair competition for bloggers. Mostly because the person who starts the whole project has a limited reach therefore not EVERYONE interested will know about it. Also, people tend to choose people who they like. And there’s nothing wrong with that! But it also does not mean it’s fair. That’s why when you do run a competition or awards or whatever, make sure to:
- Specify your reach and limit it, either on the county, niche or whatever else, know your power on that one
- Specify for who it is! You can’t say it’s for everyone while you only have 3-4 niches in it.
- Do not use people for judges! Use a randomizer. Yes, you can find those things online.
- Know that there will be people who will NOT agree with the way you do stuff and that’s okay. Consider their ideas for the next time you do a competition.
- Know that you’re not perfect and what you’re doing is not without flaw. You’re a human, not a magical unicorn.
And for those in doubts, yes I ran competitions and awards, so yes I know how it is. But still, you as a host have to be the smart one because no one else will do that for you!
But hold on… That’s not what I wanted to point on about the blogging awards… I wanted to say that I personally find they useless unless they are you know… given by someone that can make the award official. So no, not everyone who thinks it’s a fun idea to have blogging awards, can actually do it properly.
I came to the end of my fairly long rant so for the finish let me tell you this.
All of those actions are perfectly understandable even logical. Why would someone help their own competition? that would make no sense! But still people, there’s no need to bullshit each other. You don’t have to put on your “nice mask” just so you can stab someone in the back right after they start walking away with a smile on their faces. Naturally, not everyone’s like that. Not everyone’s a self-obsessed freak who only knows how to benefit him/herself. But a lot of people are and they need to rethink their life choices, in case they have any…