Constructive criticism and commenting


Constructive criticism in blogging word seem to be one of those mystical unicorns that shouldn’t exist but it actually does, so people are afraid to use it.

Okay let’s be real constructive criticism is not a unicorn, but it’s still something that sends bloggers running for the hills and not uses it EVER. They all avoid it like the plague. Well to be fair SOME people writing comments on blogs actually give constructive criticism.

Actually, most people avoid commenting altogether and just “like” the post.

Don’t get me wrong! I appreciate your effort and the fact that you took 3 min to read and liked my post because darn you certainly didn’t have to! But you know it’s still annoying. I personally write to get a reaction. And as much as a “like” Is a reaction it doesn’t exactly tell me anything.

What? Did you like the post? You liked the post because you’re a nice person? You liked the post because you actually like what I wrote? TELL ME! Writing a comment is not that hard.

However on the other hand “Nice post” helps me just as much as you liking the post.

I know I’m incredibly demanding but honestly, if I like something I take 2 extra min out of my day to give a legit comment on the post. Most comments I get don’t even sound like the person read the post, but more like they read the first sentence (if any).

Now I know that most my comments are there because of Facebook groups and, darlings, I KNOW that you’re probably not even remotely interested in what I have to say, but at least try to make it look like you read the post. You know pretend and make it seem legit. Yeah, I know when you commented without reading the entire post, you’re not even remotely good at disguising that. However you probably don’t care enough to disguise it, cause any comment is a comment and you can finally finish that annoying Facebook thread, right?

It’s probably bizarre that I feel bothered by lousy comments that are only a pat on the back telling me I did great and having no backbone nor require thinking or reading the actual post. I mean most bloggers feel flattered when they get a “Great post!” while I feel incredibly bothered because it sounds so insincere without any explanation of why it’s a great post…

This particular pet peeve formed because I used to be a book reviewer and tough my education everyone told me to ALWAYS explain why I stand behind whatever I said. So there you have it, I know it’s a lot to expect but I can’t help it.

And yes, for those wondering I was a book reviewer on multiple story/book writing and sharing/selling sites. But I had to quit because I ran out of time to read…

Okay, let’s move to the constructive criticism. I honestly feel like people are afraid of it because they think they would be found rude. And that’s absolutely not the case. I mean yes I admit it, writing good constructive criticisms is hard and most people who start off do it wrong…

But! To clear this once and for all, constructive criticism or criticism alone is not the person bashing you and telling you how bad your post is! It’s just something that bothers them and something you should (can) consider in order to make your posts better!

And no!

“Your post sucks because I said so!” or “Oh this is amazing! I wish I could do that.” is NOT in any form criticism or constructive criticism. In order to write a constructive criticism you basically have to write a review of the post, what you liked, what you didn’t like and most importantly explain WHY.

I’m quite sure people will appreciate your thought out comment as well as the fact that you helped them out and pointed out what’s good and what they can fix. You have no idea how great that is! It helps the writer grow and get better, not only that, with writing a comment like that, you also help yourself because in the future you’ll be able to read better posts.

Of course, I have to go back to Facebook groups and commenting threads. I have to admit here, I really don’t feel like reading 30 or more blog posts that don’t interest me. But I do it, for the sake of doing my part of the deal. The problem occurs when I get to the part of commenting.

Now I know you’ll probably all call me an asshole for doing this, especially after my long-ish rant about how people should give proper comments and blah blah. But I never write constructive criticism when commenting for those threads, unless I really like the post.

However! I never write only “Good post!” or “Interesting read!” or whatever crap like that. I always take time and point out the thing that the writer seem to be the most excited about and comment on that while adding “Nice post”.

So yeah, I’ll leave you with a tip for your future commenting. If you can’t be bothered with thinking of a good comment, just use that the writer wrote and throw in one good and one bad thing about the post…. And voila! You have the perfect recipe to not sound like an asshole while commenting.

But yeah, you still have to actually read the post.

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48 thoughts on “Constructive criticism and commenting

  1. I don’t know if your intention was to be humorous but you did make me chuckle through the whole post. I totally feel your pain and frustration. Coming up with good comments isn’t always easy so I usually only do comment threads with a maximum of 10. I often take more time composing a comment than reading the post!

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  2. I thought I was the only one who noticed this.
    I’m one to always reply comments on my blog, because I absolutely get turned off when I come across a blogger who doesn’t, but some comments strike me as fake and unoriginal and just obviously robotic from a human, I find it distasteful.
    You can just tell they didn’t read much, and that’s rather sad, since I’m trying to pass across a message and not necessarily just increase my comments count.

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    1. Well I have to admit that I often don’t reply to comments, simply because most people write such comments that are impossible to reply to.
      And yes It’s the same for me. With my blog I’m trying to show what I think and get people to think about the topic too. So I don’t care if someone liked the post, I want them to tell me what they think of the topic

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  3. Reading is something I truly enjoy. Commenting is something I would rather love to just put a smiley or love if I do not know how to react. But then, engaging in comment exchange threads in blogs, instagram or facebook is yes – a deal. We should give what is due to other participants as they are also doing their part. I believe the group we have is a community and a community support each other.

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  4. Just the other day, someone left a comment on one of my posts asking a question that I answered in the post. The answer was the heading of the second paragraph, and I went into detail over a couple paragraphs. That was the most glaring “I didn’t even read the post” comment I’ve gotten.

    As for constructive criticism, I don’t often think of that when I first read something, unless I had major issues with it. I have to admit, I’d be timid to post it in a comment, though.

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  5. I very much agree with you. It is going to be so irritating when a hard worked content receives a default message like ‘awesome’, ‘sounds great’ and so on. After all, few minutes of reading will give a clear idea of what the blog post is all about and yet most fail to do that!

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  6. One thing I like about facebook groups is all the different types of topics you run into on the other people’s sites. However, I do kind of wish that I could find more “niche” branded groups. I have started hunting a little more and am starting to, which, as I find more will allow me to phase out the generic ones. The big upside to getting people reading from other niches though is that you are getting traffic from people that might not otherwise see the posts….

    As far as leaving good comments, I try to leave something beneficial to the other readers as well as the author since I am also leaving a link to my work for people to check out. If I have nothing persuasive to say, what’s the point of leaving a link back to my site?

    Thanks for your honesty and ability to tell it like it is! I, for one, appreciate it!

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  7. I find that I can leave some really wordy posts when the content resonates with me. When it doesn’t, it’s sometimes hard to leave a meaningful content. For example, I’m not a golfer and if I’m reading a post about golf, my eyes kind of glaze over and I don’t really have much to say that’s meaningful. I think it’s a two way street. I think that when we use commenting groups to help drive traffic that it’s helpful to find groups that service one’s niche. That way, the content is more likely to resonate.

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  8. Way to expose us all!!!! Well I did read your posts and I agree that people sometimes don’t bother to read what they’re commenting on. Oh well, you can take it or leave it. No matter how much you complain or blog about it, it probably won’t change…Human nature….

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  9. I understand the feeling of frustration when getting feedback. I have a contact form that some people use to tell me about the general atmosphere of my work, since I have an overall aesthetic and don’t necessarily say different things in each post. That works for me, too. I also ask individual readers to comment but that rarely brings anything constructive. I use feedback in every form in order to decide what (not) to post next. But yes, it’s terribly annoying when someone leaves an offensive comment, ridiculing or belittling our efforts. Also, feedback is a social game and readers might hesitate if they don’t have a good rapport with the author. So the more you give the nor me you’ll get. Hang in there and best of luck.

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  10. I agree with your post. We work so hard at creating epic content for readers out there, and the comments of “nice post” or “very interesting” or “good read” drive me crazy. I put hours of creativity into it, leave me something more!

    I will definitely share this, even for newbie bloggers to read. We all can learn how to be better with interacting…it’s what helps all our blogs grow!

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  11. Sometimes people might find it hard to get through a long post with just words. Have you thought about using some pictures or headings to keep your reader going to the end? More like a magazine layout. People have short attention spans these days.

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  12. I have to give you props for posting this and telling how you feel because a lot of people do this but I usually skim through the post if it’s too long for me or save it and come back to read it, but I believe what you said is 10000000% TRUE. Very True. True Words! For sure, but I think it’s more respectful to leave a meaningful comment about the post and what they are entitled to write with there opinion. (:

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  13. I just finished watching the VP debate and I’m a bit irritated, so I’ll be honest and say that I just don’t want to read a rant at the moment…lol. I get that it can be irritating to get generic comments from FB groups, but maybe try to find groups that focus on your niche?

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  14. You have made great points about actually reading the post and giving a good constructive response. I try to do this for most, I must say that sometimes I will write a more fluffy responseif it is for example religious or something that is a touchy subject for me. But I completely agree that us is annoying to read comments that you just know that the person didn’t actually read more than a sentence

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  15. Whew! This can get sensitive, lol. I, too, hate the “nice post” “interesting” “wow”, because I try to leave thoughtful comments. It’s probably what takes me so long, because I am trying to actually read and be thoughtful (oh well… integrity). I’m not sure why I love comments so much, but I do, and I hope that eventually I won’t rely on FB as heavily to receive some love.

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  16. This is a touchy topic indeed. Speaking for myself only, I will write a very short comment or “Interesting post,” or something of that nature because I have no interest whatsoever, I have read ten other posts on the same sponsored product, the writer did not consider that not everyone reading their posts can use the particular product due to ethnic and other differences, or is vegan or whatever. You will get a long comment from me – like this one – when the post actually starts a conversation and not merely pushing something on me. Some bloggers seem to only want praises and have no stomach for someone saying, “I do not agree with you.” That’s when you get That’s interesting. 🙂 Thanks for allowing me to take up some of your space. 🙂

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  17. I try to never write interesting post but sometimes I have no clue what the person is even talking about. So I have no choice. But it’s rare!

    I try to always be polite though because I appreciate the same in return.

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  18. Ha, well now you have me scared to write anything! Just Kidding, I totally get where you are coming from and like your down to earth approach. While the blog groups are great for growing your network sometimes it just sucks to have to read through and write comments on blogs that have absolutely no interest to you! I personally want to reach people who will enjoy my writing style and topic choices, not people who have no interest! The “great post” is a pat on the back for our self esteem but it doesn’t tell the writer you actually read said post at all! Thank you for putting this issue on the table!

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  19. I understand your frustration and everyone else’s opinion. I always try to take something positive from the post I read to leave a comment. I personally like the FB group comments much better than the ones I used to get on my blog in the past. Before the FB groups, I would stop on other blogger’s website blogs and leave a comment. Most of them returned spammy generic comments with links, promoting their blogs and social media pages which annoyed me.

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    1. Yeah those “I’ll just post something, so I can link 100 links along with it” comments are really annoying. I understand people are trying to promote themselves, but honestly there’s a bigger chance of getting noticed with a good comment than a comment full of links.

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  20. I am with you all the way. I also don’t like the idea of having to read 30 or more blogs everyday but that’s how it works when you’re part of the group. It would be nice to show a little appreciation though, you’re not being asked to read the whole thing, I mean, you can already come up with a sentence or two after reading the first paragraph. A little effort goes a long way.

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  21. I think you make some good points here. Speaking purely for myself, I often find myself worrying about being thought rude. But more often, its a thought along the lines of “Who am I to be criticizing this?” Although that says more about me than about your post….
    On the other hand, I have appreciated the constructive criticism I’ve received, from yourself among others. So I totally understand your want to have something more than just “nice post”.
    And I’m going to break your rules here. I can’t think of something I didn’t like so I’ll leave things with that.

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    1. Well thank you for speaking up! Also yeah, I used to worry about being rude myself, but sfter reviewing books for 3-4 years I learned that it’s always better to tell what you think and not just be like “oh that’s nice” If nothing else it’s kinda rude to the author to give a halfassed response, not to mention how useless it is.

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  22. I agree with your point! Well, it sucks when we’re told or refrain from giving constructive criticism. I find we’re always been reminded on social media to be nice and polite to one another. Most of us learned this to avoid be penalized or being the bad cop. So, for me, I don’t usually write a long comment but relevant to the content I was reading.

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  23. Well, to be fair, some posts don’t sound like they need response, or criticism, so I don’t feel like leaving a long comment.
    And I like getting likes. The one thing that it says is “I visited your blog today” and them maybe “I liked your post” bc to be honest. a lot of bloggers just visit other bloggers posts but don’t really read them.

    And one more thing: While I do agree with you that it’s always good to get long, meaningful comments, the truth is, those take time to write, and if the post is good but you can write your comment in few short sentences and say everything you wanted to say, I don’t see what’s wrong with that.
    I don’t think that you should criticise everything you read bc then you’d have so little time to read, which means you’d visit less blogs or even comment rarely.

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    1. I never said there’s a need for long detiled comments/criticism. I’m absolutely fine with short comments as long as it’s not something completely generic like “nice post”.

      Also sometimes people ask for an opinion/criticism and get “That’s interesting” and that’s what botthers me, it’s not helpful at all.

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